Reflecting on practicing mindfulness:
- a student raised their hand after the practice to point out that it was the first time in weeks that everyone was silent for a period of time
Reflecting conflict cycle reading:
- helpful to know underlying issues: validates student makes them feel more comfortable and safe. helps teacher be empathetic, builds trust, blocks making assumptions on their behaviors.
- can I help you address with it or can I help you survive
- teachers don’t come into conflict cycle until observable behaviors: assumptions
- some students might try to provoke anger responses in teachers in order to confirm their beliefs that adults are hostile
- how to navigate two different approaches in teachers/school staff
- hard to focus on the positives when there are so many overwhelming negatives.
- where’s the space for teachers to be non-reactive? What’s the role of teacher reaction in the cycle?
- choosing your battles and knowing your population
- mindfulness helps you choose where you are going, how you will respond to the behavior
- when kids are constantly off task (e.g. drawing and not reading) what is the best way to deal with it
- we can only remind them of the expectations so many times
- avoidance behavior (avoidance of work): irrationality is taking responsibility off of themselves. Major goal is to connect students with taking personal responsibility and connecting the responsibility they have to themselves
- check in with them: what is keeping you from doing your work? is your mind not in it? is something else going on for you? reinforce that it is important for their learning
- transferring ownership of doing work back to them: “you’re not doing your work and I get it, but you are making a conscious choice to not do what is expected of you” pointing out they are making this choice in the moment and have them reflect back on why that is happening
- one of my frustrations is closing the distance between what I imagine the learning environment to be and what it is. need to adapt teaching to be what the kids need
- This led to a discussion on positive reinforcement and the obstacles in using it consistently, as well as the clear benefits of this approach
The Conflict Cycle: